It's better to give than to receive.
To be selfless is a great attribute.
If you are truly a kind and loving person you will go without, so they won’t have to.
The list goes on and on and I found a host of them lurking in the attic of my mind. Then I had an enlightened thought: Why don't you throw them out of that dusty old attic, open the windows up there and paint the room with blue and gold. Hang pictures of an abundant universe where everyone is supplied and no one has to go without, especially me!
What a concept! It went against the grain of so much of my childhood programming that goes back generation after generation. I had another brilliant thought: Why don't I undo those limiting beliefs for them too? I started to do a happy dance in my mind. Then just as I thought I had cleared out all those nasty things, I found another thought hidden under the baseboards: Guilt! Whoa! I tell you this one hit me like a hammer! Bonk right on my head! Voices from the past, playing old recordings were going on, so softly I could barely hear them, except for the feeling I had. It was guilt. Guilt is the way humans punish themselves. Because somewhere deep inside, we feel we are bad. Another old worn out programming. This is 2016 which is a 9, it is the year of completion. It is the time to end all negative thoughts and beliefs that keep us from our full expression as pieces of God. We are Magnificent!
So how do you take care of yourself first? You have to get rid of the guilt by changing your beliefs, then you have to practice taking care of yourself first, until it becomes as natural as not taking care of yourself was. Practice. Make a list of all your negative thoughts and beliefs about putting yourself before others, including ‘if I take care of myself before others I'm selfish.’ List them all! Pull them all out of that dark and dusty attic and write them on paper. I’ll tell you why this process is so powerful - thoughts are energy. When you take them from your mind and put them on paper you have power over them, instead of the reverse. Also, you can’t change what you don't acknowledge, so search every inch of that attic for them all!
When you are done, take another piece of paper and turn every single one of those limiting thoughts and beliefs into a positive one. When you are done with that, you take the negative list and say out loud to your cells and the universe itself these words: These thoughts and beliefs do not honor my magnificence and my Spirit. I release them forever!
Then burn them and do a happy dance around the ashes.
If you think about it, all those thoughts are saying these things beneath the surface:
You are not good enough to go first.
You don’t count, others count more.
You’re not worthy of the good that others have.
You are responsible for others first because this makes you selfless.
Being selfless means you really have no self worth.
If you give to yourself before others, you will be a selfish human being and therefore unworthy of love. (See why this one is so tough to get rid of?) AND you should feel guilty.
If you take care of others before yourself, you won’t feel guilty.
You should feel guilty for putting yourself first, because it’s selfish and uncaring and makes you a bad human being.
These are just a few of dozens of examples. I’m sure you can come up with your own. Do, and write them down and then burn them! They do not honor the GRANDNESS of who you are as part of God.
Guilt is something the ego thrives on, it keeps the human thinking like a human instead of thinking like God. Some religions thrive on it, because they have the ego dictating how you should feel and behave. It is time for us to take care of ourselves first, because when we do, we will have more energy, more love, more peace to offer the world. And this is the spiritual truth that many religions hide and even more humans hide as a way to play small. We play small because we believe we are separate from God. We’re wrong. This is a good time to do the happy dance...